Change in behavior by metal singer Tim Lambesis worried wife, divorce documents show
7:30 AM, May 9, 2013
Divorce documents show the lead singer of heavy metal band As I Lay Dying and the wife he allegedly tried to hire a hit man to kill had a mostly amicable split, and she expressed no fears for her safety.
But Meggan Lambesis, wife of Tim Lambesis, said in the court papers obtained by The Associated Press that recent changes in his behavior had her worried about his ability to care for their three adopted children.
Law enforcement officials said they arrested 32-year-old Tim Lambesis after he tried to hire an undercover detective he believed was a hit man. He is scheduled to be arraigned Thursday, two days after he was taken into custody at a store in Oceanside.
Meggan Lambesis said her estranged husband, who is covered in tattoos and known for his growling voice, had become "obsessed with bodybuilding" and was distracted while with the children, often texting or talking on the phone. She noted he had fallen asleep while watching them at the beach and said they need a "stable parent" to help them adjust to their new life.
The couple adopted the children -- ages 4, 8 and 10 -- from Ethiopia, and Tim Lambesis continued to see them for about 10 hours a week when he was not on tour, even though the couple was no longer living together, according to court documents.
She said he tours six months a year and had traveled across the country twice in one year to visit a girlfriend. She said he also had spent thousands of dollars on tattoos. Both had agreed to private mediation to discuss the children's custody.
Tim Lambesis' comments about his Grammy-nominated band's latest album, "Awakened," indicate he may have been struggling.
The band's website says the album -- released the same month his wife filed for divorce -- is a "far darker, more pessimistic beast" than previous albums.
"On this record, I wasn't purposefully trying to be negative, but I think sometimes we have to be honest with some of the darker and more difficult times of our lives to get back to that positivity," Lambesis is quoted as saying. "While the lyrics do perhaps seem like a dark window into my soul, they're written that way specifically because I want to move on and transcend those difficult moments in life."
Authorities said a task force from several law enforcement agencies launched an investigation that led to the arrest late Tuesday. The department would give no further details.
A man who answered the phone at a number listed in the singer's name in Del Mar said the family was not commenting at this time, and Lambesis' attorney could not be reached for comment.
As I Lay Dying formed in San Diego in 2000 and has released six albums, including 2007's "An Ocean Between Us," which reached No. 8 on Billboard's charts. A single from the album, "Nothing Left," was nominated for a Grammy for top metal performance.
The band, which plays in an aggressive style that features metal guitar riffs at the furious pace of hardcore punk, was scheduled to tour the country this summer.
Its record label, Metal Blade, said in a message posted to the band's fans that "there are many unanswered questions, and the situation will become clearer in the coming days and weeks."
"We'll keep you informed as best we can," the message said. "Our thoughts right now are with Tim, his family, and with everyone else affected by this terrible situation."