Mental health expert offers anger solutions in wake of Jovan Belcher murder-suicide

KANSAS CITY, Mo. - A mental health expert in anger management believes the Jovan Belcher murder-suicide that rocked Kansas City and the nation is raising important questions about how couples deal with anger.

Police the Kansas City Chiefs linebacker fatally shot his 22-year-old girlfriend, Kasandra Perkins, at the couple's home before killing himself in the parking lot outside the team's practice facility.

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Several of the couple's friends have confirmed that Belcher and Perkins were having problems and were often seen arguing in person and on the phone.

Following their deaths, some of Belcher's teammates said they had no idea Belcher was emotionally stressed.

Jerry Medol, director of Anger Alternatives in Kansas City, Mo., explained that both men and women often do not get the help they need to handle the stress in their lives.

"When you get to the point of arguing about the same thing again and again without reaching a solution and nothing changes, that's when it's time to get professional help from a counselor," Medol explained.

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He advises that people need to recognize personal signs of when their anger is about to get out of control. 

"When you start to feel your body temperature rising, your voice is getting louder and you start having thoughts about hurting the person, it's time to walk away from the situation," he explained.

"You leave and you find a professional expert who can help you figure out why you're getting angry, and how to deal with that issue in a healthy way," Medol added.

He stated that men are especially challenged to share their emotions and struggles because they're often raised to hide their feelings.

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Medol said there is an international organization with groups in Kansas City called The Mankind Project.  Men meet in a private group setting and talk about their emotional highs and lows and explore those issues. There are nine groups in Kansas City. To find out more about the organization visit http://kansascity.mkp.org/.

To find out more about Anger Alternatives call 816-341-2120, or visit http://www.anger.org/about-2/mission.

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