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Mom starts foundation in honor of slain son to help other grieving families

Posted: 5:13 PM, Nov 26, 2019
Updated: 2019-11-26 21:20:36-05
Carolyn Marks RJ Foundation 2018

KANSAS CITY, Kan. — Carolyn Marks says her higher calling to honor her son's legacy started coming to her in dreams.

"God kept showing me everything as it was falling into place,” Marks said. “Other people need help, too.”

After her son, Ronald "RJ" Marks Jr., was shot to death in their Kansas City, Kansas, home last year, Marks didn't know where to turn, who to call or even how to get out of bed.

"I never knew all of the little bitty things that mattered,” she said Tuesday, the anniversary of his death. “Who’s going to buy the suit? Because we wanted to bury him in blue, his favorite color.”

After the community stepped up to help in a multitude of small ways, her purpose became clear.

"Mama Marks" launched the RJ Foundation 2018 to help people going through the same loss she experienced. She held a ribbon cutting at Highland Park Funeral Home on Tuesday, the same place where RJ's funeral was held.

"Monetary, shoes, clothes, a loving hand, somebody to sit there with them, somebody to help them go through the book and pick out the flowers,” Marks said about how the foundation will help families. “Somebody that can cook something for them, because I can cook!”

Just as they fight for their children in life, many mothers in the Kansas City area look for ways they can continue fighting for their children in death — a sad reality the metro faces.

"As far as families starting new programs, that doesn’t surprise me at all in any way, because that's something they can control and something they can grasp onto," said Michelle Metje, founder of Corey's Network Inc.

Corey's Network is an established outreach program that not only helps families after their child is killed, but also helps new organizations get started. Metje compared the work to putting out a thousand small fires everywhere because the community hasn’t yet found a way to prevent the fire.

"I think the more people that we have in our team fighting in that way, arm by arm, together against this, we'll be able to put out the fire before it starts," Metje said.

Marks hopes her foundation will fill a need in KCK, and anywhere else she's needed.

"I’m full and alert and I’m ready to fight. I’m going to do this and I’m going to help people, just like he did when he was alive," Marks said.

To reach the RJ Foundation 2018, call 816-918-8273.

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